{"id":4042,"date":"2017-10-11T09:00:53","date_gmt":"2017-10-11T16:00:53","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/newsincerity.us\/?p=4042"},"modified":"2023-05-20T05:33:44","modified_gmt":"2023-05-20T05:33:44","slug":"mosque-shooter-befriends-mosque-leader","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.kilde.org\/new-sincerity\/mosque-shooter-befriends-mosque-leader\/","title":{"rendered":"Mosque Leader Befriends Mosque Shooter"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>Former Marine, Ted Hakey Jr., is close friends with local mosque leader,&nbsp;Zahir Mannan. Hakey says his friendship with Mannan is so tight he tells him secrets he won&#8217;t even discuss with some of his other closest friends.<\/p>\n<p>But these two definitely weren&#8217;t always this close. In fact, before they&#8217;d met, and just a day after the Paris attacks, an intoxicated Hakey shot 30 bullets into the mosque Mannan belonged to in Meriden, CT.&nbsp; Luckily, it was the middle of the night and no one was in the mosque.<\/p>\n<p>Before his sentencing, he asked to meet the mosque leaders to apologize. Their willingness to meet him without negative judgment and their&nbsp;willingness to listen completely shifted Hakey&#8217;s perspective on this community he, up until then, knew almost nothing about.<\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<blockquote class=\"twitter-tweet\" data-lang=\"en\">\n<p dir=\"ltr\" lang=\"en\">Beautiful and heartfelt warm words by our brother <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/HakeyJr?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\">@HakeyJr<\/a> for speaking at our annual Jalsa convention <a href=\"https:\/\/t.co\/0GJAdTr1cs\">pic.twitter.com\/0GJAdTr1cs<\/a><\/p>\n<p>\u2014 Wajid Danish Ahmed (@CTMuslims4Peace) <a href=\"https:\/\/twitter.com\/CTMuslims4Peace\/status\/759560748565757953?ref_src=twsrc%5Etfw\">July 31, 2016<\/a><\/p><\/blockquote>\n<p><script async=\"\" src=\"\/\/platform.twitter.com\/widgets.js\" charset=\"utf-8\"><\/script><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<p>Mannan visited Hakey every other week in prison and even gifted Hakey his grandfather&#8217;s Quran. Now released, Hakey enjoys reading about Islam and having discussions with Mannan about it.<\/p>\n<p>Every week the mosque invites the public in for coffee, cake, and conversation. Hakey encourages his community to join in.&nbsp;\u201cI feel that I owe them just to get it out there so that people don\u2019t make the same mistake that I did,\u201d Hakey told NBC Connecticut.<\/p>\n<p>This story gets us all wondering: Can we avoid the negative starts and head straight to the friendships in the future?<\/p>\n<p>Hakey said his negative view of Islam stemmed from social media. Each day he was exposed to anti-Muslim rhetoric and, regrettably, a lot of it stuck. One of many ways we can help shift this is to make sure social media is full of&nbsp;<em>positive&nbsp;<\/em>stories about people of all backgrounds. And if a local venue or religious space offers up their version of &#8216;coffee, cake, and conversation&#8217; \u2013 go.<\/p>\n<p><em>Step one \u2013 hit share. Cheers.&nbsp;<\/em><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_4046\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-4046\" style=\"width: 600px\" class=\"wp-caption aligncenter\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-4046\" src=\"https:\/\/newsincerity.us\/wp-content\/uploads\/2017\/09\/Zahir-Ted-Hug-1000x773.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"600\" height=\"464\"><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-4046\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Zahir Mannan and Ted Hakey embrace at the Baitul Aman &#8220;House of Peace&#8221; Mosque after Ted&#8217;s apology to the Ahmadiyya Muslim community. (Peter Casolino\/Special to the Courant)<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Former Marine, Ted Hakey Jr., is close friends with local mosque leader, Zahir Mannan. Hakey says his friendship with Mannan is so tight he tells him secrets he won&#8217;t even discuss with some of his other closest friends. But these two definitely weren&#8217;t always this close. 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